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Monday, December 4, 2017

So You Got Angry


No big deal, right? Everyone loses their temper once in a while.
But what is anger, really?
Anger is a reaction to not getting something you want, and blaming someone else for it.
No one can make you angry and no one can make you yell, throw things, hit things, or otherwise behave with violence.
You don’t act angry because you care so much.
You don’t act angry because you’re right.
You don’t act angry because you can’t help it.
You act angry because you’re thinking about what you want that you’re not getting, and you have abandoned control over your behavior because of it.
Anger is hatred in action.
Anger makes the subject of your anger an idol, and the object of your anger an enemy.
The only justifiable anger is the righteous kind, which is a response to an evil that harms an innocent, and is meant to lead to action to stop that evil.
However, most of our expressed, daily anger is itself an evil that harms an innocent.
And most of our expressed, daily anger is unjustifiable.
Common sense makes it obvious that anger produces pain, damage, and more anger. Like breeds like. Always.
Do you have a problem with anger?
Would someone in your life—your spouse, your child, a coworker, a parent—say you do?
If either of those questions are answered, “Yes,” then you have a problem with anger.
I’ve had a problem with anger.
The world has a problem with anger.
Anger is a problem.
So, what are you going to do about yours?

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Tuesday, November 28, 2017

How to Catch a Woman


A friend of a friend on Facebook posted about his frustration with dating apps, and he wondered, “Where are all the nice ladies?” He went on to explain that all he wants is someone who’s a housewife type who will keep him company and watch sports with him.
On the one hand, I have to tip my hat to his honesty and bald-faced self-awareness.
However, I replied that I don’t know many women who want to be wanted for being good housewives.
In fact, let’s turn that around and see how it sounds from the other direction: “I just want a man who’s a doctor/musician/Marine who will bring me flowers and be my date at family weddings.”
There are women who want nothing more in life than to be wives and mothers. That’s as noble an aspiration as being a surgeon, violinist, or soldier. But those women don’t want to be pursued because they’ll do your laundry, cook your meals, and raise your kids, any more than a man wants to be valued for his job title or for the paycheck he brings in.
Everyone wants to be loved for who they are, not for how they’ll make you happier.
In this swipe-right/left society, we’re bombarded with messages about how to improve our own lives. Marketing is all about getting us to think about ourselves—even jewelry ads target men’s egos with the tag line “Make her fall in love with you all over again.” The sweeping majority of modern love songs focus exclusively on how the singer’s object of fascination makes him or her feel.
But what do you really want from a significant other? Isn’t it to be admired and appreciated for who you are? Don’t we want our beloveds to find us fascinating and interesting and irresistible? And to support us emotionally, socially, and psychologically when we need it?
That goes both ways, guys.
So, if you want a good woman (as opposed to a hookup—if that’s all you’re looking for then close this page now because you’re a shallow jerk and the pointers below will help you be a shallow jerk to even more women than you already have), here’s how to start being a desirable man:
1. Focus on who she is more than on what you want from her.
“Do you like monster truck rallies?” is a fair enough question, and it lets her know what you enjoy. But instead, how about starting with, “What do you like to do on the weekends?” The former question is more about you than it is her. The latter is open-ended, and shows an interest in who she is, rather than on what you want her to be.
2. Listen more than you talk.
Men—and sometimes women, too—have a tendency to fill every second with chatter about themselves. It’s not always bragging, but sometimes just a result of nerves, habit, or a lack of competence in the give-and-take of a real conversation. If you do this, stop it. Silences are not your enemy, and in fact can lead to unexpected topics, enjoyable nonverbals, and/or intriguing eye play. This two-minute tutorial on how to break into a man’s over-talking jag is meant for women, but reveals a lot about women’s frequent experiences with dating. It also offers one possible explanation why that woman you thought was so into you deleted your number from her phone after your first date:


3. Be real.
Full disclosure, not every woman wants a man to be honest about who he really is. But if you’re looking for a long-term, solid relationship, this is important. Be honest not only about your successes and selling points, but also about your failures and flaws. I started to fall for my husband not when he told me about what a hero he’d been at work that day, but the next day when he emailed me to say, “Everything that went great yesterday I blew today.” As he vented the ways he’d screwed up—which I never would’ve known about otherwise—I realized that here was a man I could trust to always be honest with me. That’s gold.
If I could leave my Facebook friend with just one piece of advice, it would be this: Ask yourself not how a woman could improve your life, but how you might improve hers. Most women today don’t need men to support them financially, nor do they need a man’s last name to lend them credibility as fully-arrived adults. What women really want is a partner who will add value to their own lives.
Egocentric boys looking for Mommy replacements need not apply.

Friday, November 17, 2017

2017 Christmas Gift Buying Guide: GIRLS

Baby Girls

Glad Worship CD from Ben Doggett ($10)


What better way to send Baby Doll off to dreamland than with a selection of peaceful worship music? Listen to a sampling of Ben’s tracks here, then email him directly for this special price on this special collection. Get both Glad and Deep to Deep for the combo price of only $15.





French Terry Baby Blanket from Brightly Twisted ($28)


In a variety of colors and patterns to match the growing personality of any little one, this soft terry blanket is sure to please the fussiest baby right down into naptime.





Bamboo Baby Socks from Brightly Twisted ($12)


Oh, the cuteness. Also in a variety of colors, these little socks will keep your Brightly Twisted baby’s toes safe and warm.









Onesie from Brightly Twisted ($28)


These dyed-by-hand onesies are as carefully crafted and unique as your special little person.

Details:

  • Lap shouldered neck opening for easy dressing.
  • Double needle rib binding at the neck, sleeve and leg openings for a classier more finished look than just underwear
Fabric: bamboo cotton

Also comes in a short-sleeve model.


Girls, ages 4-7

Fun Soap from Heart Expressions, LLC ($5)


   

Make bath time a play party with Fish-in-a-Bag or Sea Glass Soap. With nothing but glycerin, colorant, and fragrance, these soaps are as pure as that sweet little girl in the tub.


PersianPuppets from Trades of Hope ($38)


A set of 2, these whimsical, soft puppets are made of cotton and upcycled fabrics. This means every king and queen's dress will vary.

Approx. Measurements: 14" x 8.5"
Material: Recycled cotton and polyester
Color: Multi colors
*Colors vary 

Artisan Information:
In a developing society like India it can be unimaginably difficult to secure a living especially for the disadvantaged. This artisan group is determined to help the widowed, the abused, the poor, and the handicapped. Providing much more than merely sustainable income to give regular meals for their families, they are providing education, job training, and are actively fighting for women’s rights. The community established through this group has provided a haven in which all women, despite their past, have a welcoming community where they are supported while also gaining self confidence through becoming self-sufficient.

Purchase this piece and empower a woman in India. 


Sophie Books by Stephen Davies (prices vary)


'Watch out! The locusts are coming!' A terrifying army of locusts is making its way along the edge of the Sahara desert, devastating the crops in one village after another. Gidaado's village is next. When the locusts arrive Gidaado will need all his wits about him in order to survive. He will also need his friend Sophie, his three-stringed guitar and an albino camel as fast as the Saharan wind.




A Cat Named Denali: Arlington, VA by Gretchen Schuyler Brenckle, illustrated by Kathryn Belcher Frazier ($12.70)


Meet Denali the Cat! Denali is on the adventure of a lifetime as she travels the United States meeting new friends and learning fun new facts. Where will she go next?






Girls, ages 8-12

Jeweled Necklace from Trades of Hope ($24)


Wear this gorgeous necklace long or doubled. Made out of iron wire, glass beads, and nickel-free plating.

Approx. Measurements: 50''
Material: Iron wire, glass beads, & nickel free plating
Color: Multi-colored & silver

Artisan Information:
The poverty cycle in India continues primarily because of the lack of proper education. Most schools are not free in India and many cannot afford to send their children to school. Girls' educations are often neglected as they are considered burdens on their families. Therefore, many children never learn to read or write and grow up to very limited opportunities. However, through this artisan group, futures are being transformed. Women are being empowered and their children are provided with a free education. An impact to be felt for generations to come.

Purchase this piece and empower a woman in India.


World Changer Coin Bank from Trades of Hope ($38)


Save up for your next adventure with this handmade terra cotta coin bank.

Approx. Measurements: 20" Circumference, 6" tall/wide, coin slot 1.5" by .25"
Materials: Clay & chalk powder
Colors: Terracotta & white 

Artisan Information:
"Caste mentality” strongly exists among Bengali people. Many women are discriminated against and looked down upon by society for being poor. This artisan group empowers the disadvantaged; especially women, people with, disabilities and indigenous people of the society. This group strives to empower rural women through handicraft production. Working with women regardless of caste, creed, or race. These women are provided job training, job creation skills, and leadership training. Thank you for giving these woman a new opportunity in life!

Purchase this piece and empower a woman in Bangladesh. 



Leggings from Brightly Twisted ($86)

Because don’t we all wish we could still wear these like this?

  • Slim fit
  • Elastic waistband
  • Spandex provides firm hold
  • Cotton keeps garment breathable
  • Model is 5"9 . Wearing size M
Dye Specifics:
  • Muddled variances of mossy, army green
Fabric Content:   87% organic cotton    13% spandex









Juniper Headband Set from Trades of Hope ($32)

 

This set of two headbands is covered in sequins and beads, hand-sewn into intricate designs.

Approx. Measurements: 20" stretchy band
Materials: Beads, elastic & velvet
Colors: 1- Grey, silver, black, feather-like pattern/diagonal lines that meet at center
2- Gold, crystal, black, Circular designs

Artisan Information:
The poverty cycle in India continues primarily because of the lack of proper education. Most schools are not free in India and many cannot afford to send their children to school. Girls' educations are often neglected as they are considered burdens on their families. Therefore, many children never learn to read or write and grow up to very limited opportunities. However, through this artisan group, futures are being transformed. Women are being empowered and their children are provided with a free education. An impact to be felt for generations to come.

Purchase this piece and empower a woman in India.


Girls, ages 13-18

Bamboo Cotton Socks from Brightly Twisted ($33)


In more color combinations than you can shake a foot at, these socks are the best friends her feet will ever have! Eco-friendly bamboo cotton makes these socks super soft and cozy. Truly our most universal item available, they’re a one-foot-fits-all sensation, and a wonderfully sneaky way to add some brightlytwisted to anyone's wardrobe.

Fabric: bamboo cotton





Chelsea Necklace from Trades of Hope ($32)

 
  
 This curved bar necklace features gold and rose gold tones. Hanging from a gold colored chain, this piece was named after one of our co-founders because of her golden and modern style, along with her passion for using sustainable business to end poverty. 

Approx. Measurements: 18"-20"
Material: Mixed metal
Color: Gold and rose gold

Artisan Information:
Creating these exquisite products goes beyond helping women escape poverty by providing job training so they can become self-reliant and independent. In addition to the sustainable business that comes from crafting products, these artisans are receiving welfare programs, financial management classes, education and healthcare. These artisans are now able to provide for their families a healthy and promising future.

Purchase this piece and empower a woman in India.


Drawn by Maria Keffler ($4.99 ebook; $13.89 paperback)


This coming-of-age speculative fiction story will take your teen on a heart-throbbing journey back to the 1980’s.

Artistic prodigy Juliet Brynn just wants to survive 1982 with as little social torture as possible. But then her sketches start to come true and Damon Sheppard, a boy with a troubled past, shows her worlds she never knew existed and a power at work in the universe that forges paths into places most people choose never to go. When Juliet begins to shape the future by drawing it, she must discover the source of her newfound Power of Artistic Prophecy and the key to making it work.
"I started to pray for help to come, for God to save us. Then I stopped. I swallowed another mouthful of my own blood. If God even existed, he obviously didn’t give a crap about me."
When unthinkable trauma strikes, will Damon—and Juliet’s prophetic gift—prove as catastrophic as some predict, or can they impart her the power to make everything right again?

Give her the complete Drawn series with Books II & III:

 
        


 
  

“So Thankful For You... because most of my other friends kind of suck.” (Blank Inside)

Set of six thank-you cards she’ll love sending.


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