Oh, here’s another one I’d so much prefer to skip. Can we just agree that I’m selfish and leave it at that?
Kidding, God. Just kidding…
used to have anger issues. In attempting to eradicate them I have
discovered that at least 99.9% of my episodes of anger are 100% self-centered.
A friend who went through counseling for anger told me to ask myself, when I’m
angry, what it is I want and am not getting.
Holy smoking ears, Batman. Is that ever an illuminating exercise.
I want that other car to get the heck out of the left lane and out of my way because I am late and he is making me more late!
I want my children to stop spilling their beverages and creating more work for me!
I want my husband to interpret, “No, nothing is wrong,” to mean, “Of course something is wrong, and you should already know what it is!!!”
Why yes, I do think I’m the center of the universe.
Actually, I’ve come a long road in expunging anger from my life, by way of post-partum depression, a year of medication, some good therapy, and the unbelievable kindness of a God who knows and sees and heals. More on that here.
But the places I still harbor unforgiveness also cohabit with anger. Why am I angry? Because I’m not getting something I want: justice, respect, admiration, validation, my rights.
Unforgiveness is rooted deep and determinedly in selfishness.
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For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice. – James 3:16
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